Advice For Twin Parents

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This blog topic was requested by another blogger who is interested to know what my parents did right while raising my twin sister and I.

Although my parents divorced while my twin sister and I was about six months old, one very significant thing my parents did a good job at, was setting their differences aside, and never putting us in the middle of their relationship and or arguments.

My parents worked very hard to get a long and provide only a positive relationship in front of my twin sister and I to show that we were not an issue or problem that led up to their divorce.

Aside from the divorce, my parents did an excellent job while raising us both in our individual personalities. Although my twin sister and I are very similar, our interests and hobbies differ. In addition, what our parents needed to do was understand that we are two separate people and treat us differently depending on our interests.

If I wanted to play basketball, my parents did a really good job at allowing me to do that while asking my twin sister what she was interested in, rather than just throwing her into basketball as well. So recognizing the different interests and characteristics of both my twin sister and I was something my parents did right.

Another thing my parents did right while raising us was making sure that my twin sister and I had a very strong and positive relationship. They wanted to make sure that no matter what my twin sister and I had each others back at all times.

Overall, the most important thing to keep in mind as a parent of a twin, as my mother would say, is to never let the twins feel like they are being put in the middle. As any child, you should never let them feel like this, however, for twins, they feel like they are a bigger impact because they’re two of them. And lastly, my mother mentioned that as a parent of twins individuality can make all the difference in raising them.

I will be posting more advice for parents of twins in the near future.

I Love you Kahealani

Us Twins and Our Significant Others

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When people are looking for their significant other and or soulmate they tend to say that they are looking for their opposite, their other half.

When my twin sister Billie and I would go through boyfriends we sometimes made jokes about how our boyfriends would call us their other half. The reason that it was so funny was that growing up as a twin, me and my sister always felt that we were each others “other half.” In addition, we would call our significant others our “other other half.”

Today, I have been with my boyfriend Kaipo for about 1 year and 3 months, and my sister Billie has been with her boyfriend Reyko for about 2 years and 3 months. It’s ironic that my sister and her boyfriend started dating on December 31, 2010, and exactly a year later my boyfriend Kaipo asked me out on the exact same day of 2012.

Although our boyfriends are not twins and are not anything a like, they posses characteristics and a personality similar to ourselves. The only difference is my personality is very much like my sisters boyfriend Reyko, and my twin sister’s personality is very much found in the characteristics of my boyfriend Kaipo.

My sister and I talked about this subject a few times and I started to realize that I was very much drawn to my boyfriend Kaipo not only because he was opposite of myself, but  because he was very much like my twin sister Billie.

In addition, I am pretty convinced that twins who date, tend to seek love in a partner who is very similar to their twin because it feels complete, safe, and right.

I love you Kahealani

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